In my most recent podcast, I asked, “What is woke culture doing to our children?” My guest – Bracha Goetz, a prolific children’s author and I discussed the issue. I wish I had read a certain NewAmerican article prior to or, I would have brought up the trend of children cancelling their parents. Check out this quote…
It was shocking to us that our children canceled us for being who and what we are; we have tried to be good and true parents, faithful and patriotic. We are heartbroken, blame ourselves, blame our children, reach out and plead and cajole, pray and pray and pray and ask others to pray, too.
… This is happening to many middle-class families. For example, I met a friend the other day, and she told me she has several friends whose children are canceling them. One of them is a mother with whom my friend was close as their kids grew up. She said this person was an excellent mother, but now her son will have nothing to do with her and is calling her an abusive mother.
My friend’s own son canceled her and her husband, too. The son told his mother that everything they taught him was a lie. Before he canceled them, he forbade his mother to talk to him about God anymore.
Years ago, my children also told me I was not allowed to talk to them about God anymore.
Both of us told our children that we would not proselytize, but we could not promise never to mention God because we are people of faith; it is who we are.
When my husband posted on Facebook about our plight, more than a few friends responded that they were going through the same things. One mother said her three children will have nothing to do with her anymore and had recently left her out of a family wedding. She said she is also a person of faith.
Providing yet more detail, Boddie points out that her kids hated President Trump with almost demonic passion. She mentions that it upset their daughter when she and her husband expressed concern to their governor, Jared Polis, D-Colo., about lockdowns (they then apologized to her). But the January 6 trespassing incident was the final straw; even though the Boddies weren’t even in Washington, D.C., that day, their children disowned them. All communication ceased.
When I read that, my reflex was to think that this was an unfortunate occurrence. Spoiled and ungrateful children have been around for ages and such attitudes would likely dissipate over time as blood is thicker than water. Family is first and such bonds are very, very difficult to disintegrate entirely. Even in those cases where children have been abused, the longing for love and acceptance from parents remains.
It is my belief that family is where our values are formed. We observe our parents and internalize their values and expectations. As a result, we model our behavior after theirs and eventually, our ways become fixed. Ancient wisdom bears this out and science confirms the truth, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)
Now imagine that you are wedded to Marxist ideology and you desperately want your worldview to proliferate within the United States. How would you go about it? One method might be to convince parents that your leftist way of thinking is best with the hopes that it filters down to their children and thereby, your ideals survive another generation. Another course of action is to deal directly with the children themselves and circumvent the will of the parents. That second tactic has been implemented by schools pushing critical race theory (CRT) to the chagrin of parents vehemently opposed to the doctrine. (Every time I see parents standing up against it, my heart smiles inside.) And in that struggle is a startling revelation, at least it was to me.
As I see it, the fight over CRT is not solely parents battling school systems. It goes beyond that. I think at its core, the battle over CRT, is really over who has the ultimate responsibility over your children? You or the state? Sound weird? Bear with me as I prove a point. Here is a quote from NY Post which references a page on the Black Lives Matter website that was removed due to criticism.
The group, whose co-founder Patrisse Cullors has described herself and fellow co-founder Alicia Garza as “trained Marxists,” removed a page titled “What We Believe” that included its public policy positions as well as describing itself as part of the “global Black family” — a change first reported Monday by the Washington Examiner.
“We disrupt the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure requirement by supporting each other as extended families and ‘villages’ that collectively care for one another, especially our children, to the degree that mothers, parents, and children are comfortable,” the website formerly read.
The page, which was no longer available Thursday, also said BLM aimed to “dismantle the patriarchal practice” that leads to mothers having to work double shifts to make ends meet.
In case you are curious, you can see the missing BLM page here and read it for yourself. The “western-prescribed nuclear family structure” being referred to is a mother and father caring for their kids in a family unit. Why the animosity towards the traditional family structure? Blame it on the father of Marxism – Karl Marx. His views on the traditional family were discussed in the FEE article, “Black Lives Matter’s Goal to ‘Disrupt’ the Nuclear Family Fits a Marxist Aim That Goes Back a Century and a Half.” I quote…
“Abolition [Aufhebung] of the family! Even the most radical flare up at this infamous proposal of the Communists,” Marx wrote. “On what foundation is the present family, the bourgeois family, based? On capital, on private gain. In its completely developed form, this family exists only among the bourgeoisie.”
Marx and Engels proceeded to compare the nuclear family to public prostitution, before explaining why it was natural and desirable for the institution to “vanish.”
“The bourgeois family will vanish as a matter of course when its complement vanishes, and both will vanish with the vanishing of capital,” Marx and Engels wrote. “The bourgeois clap-trap about the family and education, about the hallowed co-relation of parents and child, becomes all the more disgusting, the more, by the action of Modern Industry, all the family ties among the proletarians are torn asunder, and their children transformed into simple articles of commerce and instruments of labour.”
From where does this hostility to the family stem? Marx and Engels offered clues.
“The modern family contains in germ not only slavery (servitus), but also serfdom, since from the beginning it is related to agricultural services,” Engels wrote in The Origin of the Family, Private Property and the State, quoting Marx. “It contains in miniature all the contradictions which later extend throughout society and its state.”
The hostility to the traditional family did not die with Marx and Engels, however. One of the first steps the Bolsheviks took after seizing power was to begin a decades-long struggle to abolish marriage and weaken the traditional family.
“The issue was so central to the revolutionary program that the Bolsheviks published decrees establishing civil marriage and divorce soon after the October Revolution, in December 1917,” writes Harvard historian Lauren Kaminsky. “These first steps were intended to replace Russia’s family laws with a new legal framework that would encourage more egalitarian sexual and social relations.”
Classic Marxists wanted to destroy the family because they saw it as a model of exploitation. Men exploit their wives and parents exploit their children, all for “private gain” (aka capitalism). Moreover, families are a way of instilling hierarchy (aka servitus) and respect for authority which they believe will reproduce class inequality (aka serfdom). Although I have not heard it articulated this way with modern Marxists, the spirit of classical Marxism seems consistent. This is why I am not surprised when I hear how the left wants to destroy suburbs or call women “birthing people” or write books like “Full Surrogacy Now: Feminism Against Family” or encouraging women to work rather than stay home to care for their new born babies or that children really belong to “the whole community” and not their parents. It is all a concerted effort to destroy families.
Hmm… Let me give some context to my point about children belonging to the community and not parental units. Back in 2013, MSNBC released a promo video featuring Melissa Harris-Perry, host of a weekend morning MSNBC show. In the (now) infamous video she said that Americans must grow beyond the idea that children belong to their parents.
To quote the video:
“We have never invested as much in public education as we should have because we’ve always had kind of a private notion of children. Your kid is yours and totally your responsibility,” Harris-Perry said. “We haven’t had a very collective notion of these are our children.
“So part of it is, we have to break through our kind of private idea that kids belong to their parents, or kids belong to their families, and recognize that kids belong to whole communities. Once it’s everybody’s responsibility and not just the household’s, then we start making better investments.”
But, I digress. I started off this article describing how families are being broken up due to differences in values; children cancelling their parents. I wish it was not a trend but I fully expect it to continue and with greater ferocity. Unless the encroaching Marxist march is not halted in America soon, the phenomenon of younger generations (indoctrinated into Marxism) cancelling the elders in their family (who hold traditional values) will only get worse. All that being said, I think the following quote encapsulates the spirit of the modern Marxist movement perfectly.
“When an opponent declares, ‘I will not come over to your side.’ I calmly say, ‘Your child belongs to us already… What are you? You will pass on. Your descendants, however, now stand in the new camp. In a short time they will know nothing else but this new community.'”
~ Adolf Hitler
Recommended articles for further study:
- ‘If You’re Not Indoctrinating Your Children, Then Someone Else Is’: Allie Beth Stuckey On Woke Education, Entertainment, And ‘Self-Love’ | The Daily Wire
- When Adult Children ‘Divorce’ Their Parents
- Marx, Engels and the Abolition of the Family
- Why the Left HATES the Nuclear Family — Thomas Sowell
- Why Do Socialists Hate Families?